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The way Gordon worded it says that for everyone there must come a "when" - a time after which they will no longer receive medical care. This is utter nonsense. Some of us want to be kept alive at all cost. The proper operative word is "if."
Then make sure your Yobo and other family members (esp. ones you give a PoA for personal care to) know that and that you have appropriate written instructions on file. Once you're incapacitated, your PoA for care makes these decisions, not you.
Does there exist an argument so pointless, even you wouldn't start it?The way Gordon worded it says that for everyone there must come a "when" - a time after which they will no longer receive medical care. This is utter nonsense. Some of us want to be kept alive at all cost. The proper operative word is "if."
Thankfully, Yobo is a Christian as I am and believes in life.
Carolla said:It's still something of a taboo subject of discussion in many circles, which doesn't serve us well.
Carolla said:What do you think?
Does there exist an argument so pointless, even you wouldn't start it?
Back sort of on topic. One thing that needs to be a part of death ed, perhaps more for older teens and adults, is exploring the values we hold. Jae and I clearly have rather different visions of what death is about and how it fits into existence and therefore hold rather different values around what is right and wrong around death.
This actually highlights the problem with having Death Ed - whose values do you teach in such a program.
But this can also be a financial practicality. Funerals can be expensive even for a simple one. This could even be welcomed by those in the family who would have to kick in for their elderly Mom/Dad who have exhausted their savings through health care.indeed, more and more you see the line "at request of the deceased there will e no service" in obituaries. THis is a mistake IMO. HEalthy grieving is facilitated by a gathering to share stories and to share grief.
You don't teach values. You help students explore and understand their own values and discuss them. You don't present and defend a particular set of values as a fait accompli, you present options. Some say kids can't handle that kind of education but decades of Unitarian and UU curricula say otherwise.
If you want a particular set of values taught, that's why Sunday School, home schooling, and religious schools exist.
A secular system needs to be predicated on giving them tools, not particular teachings (or should be).
I know it does not always work out that way (my son's civics teacher was very outspoken politically which is exactly not how to teach civics), but that should be the goal of the curriculum.
But this can also be a financial practicality. Funerals can be expensive even for a simple one. This could even be welcomed by those in the family who would have to kick in for their elderly Mom/Dad who have exhausted their savings through health care.
Another thing is that many have outlived their friends and family is enough even without the funeral home services expense.
Abstinence is always a choice, and it's presented as a healthy choice in the curriculum. That argument is a complete dead end.Although I know you'll detest my saying this - that's the same kind of thing people said when Sex Ed was first introduced Mendalla. But now, there are values taught my friend, don't worry about that. Gone are the days when abstinence was even mentioned as a choice. Now it's pushed at kids - have fun, fun, fun - so long as you use condoms!
Also worth keeping in mind that postponing the conversation indefinitely is not a good idea. It is much more difficult when cognitive issues start coming into the mix.ANd most important...have the discussion with ALL your children, not just the one you communicate with the best. Same goes for things like wishes/intentions.desires around when to stop providing medical care.
I didn't say a funeral. I said a gathering. Which may have little cost to it. A lot of the costs will happen anyway, because you still need to deal with the body in some form. But having a potluck at the local hall where folks can tell stories and share grief might be cheap.But this can also be a financial practicality. Funerals can be expensive even for a simple one. This could even be welcomed by those in the family who would have to kick in for their elderly Mom/Dad who have exhausted their savings through health care.
Another thing is that many have outlived their friends and family is enough even without the funeral home services expense.
At the same time I have done a service for someone with no family and friends to mourn. THe only folks in attendance were some of the support workers who had met her. It was sad.