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Sexual desire and Seniors

Discussion in 'Health and Aging' started by PilgrimsProgress, Sep 6, 2017.

  1. PilgrimsProgress

    PilgrimsProgress Well-Known Member

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    Well, I see Judi Dench is commenting in the media about sexual desire and we oldies..........

    A case of the spirit being willing, but the flesh weak? (Thank God one's imagination doesn't seem to diminish with age!)

    My question is, 'Does this mean Crazyheart and I will have more competition for our young, extremely fit roofer???? ":rolleyes:
     
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  2. Inannawhimsey

    Inannawhimsey M&M, Cascadian Lovers

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    Its like
    "Wanna come up and
    Buff my shingles?"
     
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  3. Luce NDs

    Luce NDs Well-Known Member

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    Lightly now ... with shingles that area is sensitive ... neurologically!

    Cross dimensional crack ... Jack isdata -U?
     
  4. Pinga

    Pinga Room for All

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  5. Inannawhimsey

    Inannawhimsey M&M, Cascadian Lovers

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  6. Luce NDs

    Luce NDs Well-Known Member

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    Scurry, scurry, scurry ... the work ethic and no room for the playing with de Muses ... and thereafter someone will state: "How come that'still not Dunne?" Incomplete ... mist dag ate ... petro ski's err ... everyone needs a holiday!
     
  7. crazyheart

    crazyheart tomorrow,tomorrow

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    BUFF MY SHINGLES ? @Inannawhimsey, that is too funny. Pilgrims and I

    have buffed many over the years. We have the splinter scars to show for it.
     
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  8. revsdd

    revsdd This place is hilarious sometimes. Enjoy.

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    I have been told by people who work in nursing homes that a lot more goes on in nursing homes than we might think.
     
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  9. ChemGal

    ChemGal One with keen eye

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    Seniors have higher rates of STDs than what most people tend to expect. Safer sex practices should be for everyone (I include monogamous relationships within the safer sex category)!
     
  10. chansen

    chansen Pleasant Enough

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    I feel there should be a joke about roof penetrations here.
     
  11. Seeler

    Seeler Well-Known Member

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    When we were middle-aged I remember a friend telling me about her mother - a widow who was marrying a neighbour. "Mom is absolutely giggily. She old me that peopled think we are just looking for companionship but there's more to it than that. I was so embarrassed. She's my mother for goodness sake!" I suppose her mother was in her early 70s. It seemed ancient to us then - now we're in our 70s.
     
  12. crazyheart

    crazyheart tomorrow,tomorrow

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    CrazyDad's grandmother locked her bedroom door after last child. He was known

    to have tried to lift the latch. When she went to nursing home, memory fragile, she was

    laying in bed with another old fellow( Gramp passed years before) suppressed

    sexuality??
     
  13. revsdd

    revsdd This place is hilarious sometimes. Enjoy.

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    Sexuality is an integral part of humanity. Dementia or just general memory loss may do a lot of things, but it doesn't usually suppress sexuality or sexual feelings. More often, it takes away inhibitions - which is one of the reasons my friend told me that a lot happens in nursing homes that not everyone is aware of. Patients wander, doors are often unlocked and open, things don't always happen with consent. And it isn't always patient-patient. I know of female nurses who have a lot of difficulty with the roving hands of some male residents. And it's generally not what we'd think of as assault. It's sexual acting out caused by that loss of normal inhibitions. I remember years ago a nursing home in which I used to do monthly services and an elderly female patient who would try to kiss me every time she saw me. Who knows what else she would have tried to do if she had the chance. But I was younger and faster back then.
     
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    Waterfall Well-Known Member

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    Unfortunately I find most places that I've worked were not very understanding of roving hands of male/female towards other patients or nurses....usually a behaviour you don't want to tolerate and required an incident report and informing the family.
    Had one case where a husband was actually barred from visiting his wife with dementia because he would take her home occasionally and have sex with her and in her room at the facility. She was very advanced with the disease....I remember not agreeing with the decision at the time.
     
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    Waterfall Well-Known Member

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  16. PilgrimsProgress

    PilgrimsProgress Well-Known Member

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    Nah -I reckon Crazyheart and I won't be bothered by Rudi Dench for the roofer's "attentions" - she has James Bond...........;)
     
  17. BetteTheRed

    BetteTheRed Well-Known Member

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    And blessings for those of us lucky enough to still have our own aging "roofers".

    My old guy was pretty hot in his 40s. Tall, big guy, but not fat. Big, big shoulders, the most beautiful hair I'd ever seen. Wore it in a braid, but occasionally took it out after washing and I'd rebraid it for him. Black and a dark auburn and silver mixed, curly, ringlets down his back. Warm eyes; the same gold-y brown you see on river rocks underwater.

    Now, not so much. Just an old guy with a big beard, old guy's orthopaedic shoes with the velcro, a funny contrast with the "Grateful Dead" tie-dye t-shirt, always a funny old hat (I found his latest one in a wyrd estate sale in Dorval; he likes a pure wool proper hat, but then lets it get rained on and felted and misshapen.). But I remember when. And he's still the same old guy at heart.
     
  18. crazyheart

    crazyheart tomorrow,tomorrow

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    @BetteTheRed , funny, most of us have those stories. I never thought

    about it before but you write a beautiful love story. Thank you.
     
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