CrazyDad

I remember how happy you were that day, Crazyheart. you were celebrating that he had had a good day.

First, I want to thank all my friends on WC2. You were a big support. I want to let you all know that

you were represented in person by @Naman whose name was in the guest book. WC and WC2. Advertising where

ever we can get it. (lol) I am sorry I still haven't met him but appreciated his presence at the service. Thank you Naman..

Morley and my kids are not great church goers but did wholeheartedly support me in my church work.

To have the Service of Remembrance and Celebration of Life at the church I ministered at was a great comfort to me.

The Minister was an old friend and he has a very comfortable way with people and my family reacted to this in a positive way

The first hymn was "In the Bulb" My Granddaughter did Words of Remembrance from the family and

I wrote a remembrance but because my breathing was not good, a friend read it for me. An old friend who is beginning

dementia was well enough to sing It is amazing when a woman stands and sings bass. It was amazing. She sang

"In the \Garden"

The readings I picked were Ecclesiastes 3:1-15 - "For everything there is a season"

Revelation 21:1-17 "I see a New Heaven"

A meaningful message

We didn't know how many people to expect. With 25 family ,we thought maybe 50 or so.

There were over 100, old friends, new friends, kid's friends. A policeman got off work

and he and his wife travelled all night to arrive here at 3am. My kids and grandkids have

wonderful supportive friends.

Morley worked in psych(sp) unit for many years and many old co workers came. One of the comments left was.

"We all loved it when Morley was working our shift because we knew things would be done and the staff all felt safe."

People have been so kind - flowers, food trays, cards, telephone calls and visits. we thank them all.

Just a few more words. Morley went into Long Term Care at a little town , a little hour away. He loved it there.

he improved in so many ways. We all spent Boxing Day with him. A week before his death, we were called out

He was a little off but we still thought he was better than he had been. He stopped eating and drinking but was still communicating.

On Valentines morning my daughter and granddaughter went for an early visit. He didn't look well, my granddaughter who

works in Home Care called the nurse and he had a stroke and was rushed to the attached hospital. The family were all

called. He was still aware that we were there but we could see his breathing slowing more and more.

At 2;30 he died. Peacefully and calm. In those few hours, my granddaughter demonstrated how deathbed care

should be. She was extraordinary. We love her for it.

Valentine's Day. God gave us a gift to have such a man for a husband, father, grandfather and great grandfather.

He will be missed. Thank you for listening.

That's a wonderful tribute, crazyheart. Thank you for sharing it. Deepest sympathies to you and to your whole family on your loss. But remember the words of "In The Bulb":

In our death a resurrection, at the last a victory.

Thank you Revsdd

Beautiful crazyheart. So glad you felt the comfort of all the love around you - lean into that in the time to come.

And Naman ... what a guy ... thanks Naman for being there on behalf of all of us here.

I'm so pleased that the funeral went well, and that you and your family contributed.

And thank you, Naman - for being there for all of us here who have Crazyheart in our (yes) hearts.......

What a touching tribute to Crazydad! Thanks for sharing the story with us, @crazyheart.

And how lovely that @Naman was able to be present.

Morley was a wonderful person. I could tell that from your posts, and it was confirmed when we met him in real life.
So good of Naman to be there representing us all from WC and WC2 in the flesh. Many more of us were with you in spirit.
The gatheering of so many was a tribute not only to Morley but to you.
Now, as they go back to their homes and busy lives, is the time for you to take care of yourself.
Be angry, sad - weep, cry. Rely on close family and friends. And come here often. You are loved.

@crazyheart, sounds like Morley was a great guy and you're one hell of a wife.

Somehow I find these big life changes harder to address than I did before. I would have expected the opposite. But I've been thinking about you two a lot over the past few days. Not that it matters a dingo's kidney, but I have. You two didn't deserve this. I'm sorry.

There are some that say nothing does not exist ... until one discovers the vacancy ... could such things compound a mind in compromise?

In pragmatism we really should get it together ...

Crazyheart, it is good to hear that CrazyDad's coworkers arrived and shared their trust of him with you.
It is also good to hear that so many friends came and family. I am thankful that you had support and those that cared about you both present. I am also thankful that @Naman was able to be present.

May you continue to feel the lift of those around you both physically and virtually. We do care.

Sounds like a wonderful service, CH. And, like others, I'm glad someone from WC/WC2 was there in person, though I think many of us were there in spirit.

Mendalla said:

Sounds like a wonderful service, CH. And, like others, I'm glad someone from WC/WC2 was there in person, though I think many of us were there in spirit.

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Could a comment like that haunt a person ...

CH, the service sounds lovely, and it sounds like the minister had "just the right touch", which is always good. Isn't it a lovely reinforcement when co-workers remember the same sort of solid loving support you got?

I'm so glad he had a "good death", peaceful, surrounded by family, and actually, I'm glad it happened before you completely lost him as a personality. I too remember that lovely pic of him smiling so happily with his great granddaughter. It's nice when homes, and end of life systems, work well and in sync with the needs of the patient and their family.

Hugs as you grieve; I know your family will surround you with love. I'm so grateful that @Naman was there in body for so many of us in spirit.

Thanks for the update CH. I'm glad you have so much supports at this difficult time. Sending prayers/

Thanks for sharing CH. God comfort and bless you and yours.